Hey you, Hi!
Here’s a question that stopped me in my tracks:
What if your exhaustion isn’t about time management, but about energy management?
I know, I know – another thing to manage, right?
But stay with me because this might be the game-changer you’ve been looking for.
We’ve mastered our calendars. (check)
We’ve optimized our schedules. (check)
We’ve downloaded every productivity app known to humankind. (double and triple check)
And yet… something still feels off. UGH!!
Here’s why: You can manage your time perfectly and still feel completely drained.
Think about it:
Ever had a completely free evening but felt too tired to enjoy it?
Or finished everything on your to-do list but still felt behind?
Or worse – achieved a big goal only to feel too wiped out to celebrate?
That’s not a time management problem. That’s an energy crisis.
The Real Cost of “Powering Through”
You know that voice that says, “Just push through one more thing”? That voice is writing checks your body can’t cash.
When we constantly override our energy signals, we’re not just tired – we’re depleting our capacity to enjoy the very life we’re working so hard to create.
Did you know?
Research shows that 75% of high achievers struggle with energy management more than time management. It’s not about having more hours – it’s about having more life in your hours.
The Hidden Energy Drain: Taking Everything Personally
Remember last week when we talked about how not everything is about you? Here’s where that perception shift pays off big time.
Taking things personally is one of the biggest energy vampires in your life.
When you believe:
- Your team member’s bad mood is a reflection of your leadership
- Your adult child’s life choices are a commentary on your parenting
- A client’s hesitation means you’re not good enough
- Your spouse’s distraction means they don’t value you
You’re carrying around energy-sucking stories that probably aren’t even true.
That constant mental gymnastics of analyzing what others think? It’s exhausting you on a cellular level.
Your 3-Day Energy Revolution
Notice Your Energy Patterns
Start by becoming aware. For the next three days, track your energy (not just your time):
- When do you feel most alive?
- What tasks leave you feeling energized vs. drained?
- Who fills your cup, and who depletes it?
- Most importantly: When do you find yourself in the energy-draining spiral of taking things personally?
Look for patterns. That afternoon slump might not be about needing coffee – it might be about that meeting where you’re trying to please everyone.
Honor Your Energy Signals
Your body is constantly sending you messages about your energy. Start listening:
- That tension headache when dealing with certain people? It’s information.
- The heaviness you feel before certain meetings? It’s wisdom.
- The lightness you feel after setting a boundary? It’s guidance.
These aren’t random physical sensations – they’re your personal energy GPS.
Invest Your Energy Wisely
Now for the magic part – reallocating your energy:
- Schedule your most demanding tasks when your energy naturally peaks
- Build in recovery periods between energy-intensive activities (yes, actually schedule them!)
- Create boundaries around your energy vampires (people, tasks, or thoughts that drain you)
- And most importantly: Stop spending energy making everything about you
Your Permission Slip
Consider this your official permission to:
- Leave the office at 5 PM without guilt
- Take a real lunch break (away from your desk!)
- Say “let me think about it” instead of an automatic yes
- Rest before you’re exhausted
- Stop making other people’s reactions about you
- Celebrate progress over perfection
The Game-Changing Question
Before saying yes to anything new, ask yourself: “Will this energize me or drain me?”
If it’s a drain, is it:
- Necessary? (Really?)
- Delegatable? (Probably)
- Worth the energy cost? (Be honest)
The Powerful Connection: Perception Shifts & Energy Management
When you stop making everything about you, something magical happens to your energy.
All those hours spent:
- Wondering what others think
- Overanalyzing your performance
- Taking responsibility for others’ emotions
- Trying to control uncontrollable outcomes
You get to reclaim that energy for things that actually matter.
Your Challenge This Week
Pick ONE energy drain in your life and either:
- Eliminate it completely
- Delegate it to someone else
- Transform how you approach it
Now, invest that energy in something that lights you up.
Remember: You don’t have to wait for burnout to make a change. You can start your energy revolution today.
TONYA KAY
LEADER – COACH – SPEAKER – REALTOR
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P.S. What’s one energy drain you’re ready to eliminate? Hit reply and let me know – I read every email!
Loving these insights? Let’s take it further!
→ Break free from energy-draining perfectionism. Become the vibrant, empowered version of yourself you’re meant to be. Ready for your wake-up call? Email me: hello@tonyakay.co
→ Master the Art of Energy Management (because time management isn’t enough). Reclaim your vitality, reclaim your life. Book a Breakthrough Call.
→ Lead with Sustainable Energy (No Burnout Required). Discover how protecting your energy can skyrocket your impact without the exhaustion. → Book a “From Depleted to Dynamic” strategy session (Let’s map out your path to energized leadership)
