I was drowning in success until I did this one thing..

Issue #4

The High Cost of DIY: How Your ‘I’ve Got This’ Attitude Is Holding You Back

The surprising link between delegation and imposter syndrome

Hey there, rockstar!

Yes, you—the one who’s built your business and developed teams from the ground up, pouring your heart and soul into every detail.

I see you, and I know that letting go of even the smallest task feels like handing over your baby to a stranger.

But here’s the truth bomb: mastering the art of delegation isn’t just a nice-to-have skill; it’s your ticket to the next level of success.

So, why does the simple thought of delegating make our palms sweat?

Let’s dive into the fascinating world of our own brain for a hot second.

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The Science of Our Delegation Struggle

Did you know that our brains are wired to hold onto what we’ve got? It’s called loss aversion, and it’s the reason why letting go of tasks feels riskier than taking on more (even when we’re drowning!).

Add to that our tendency to overestimate our own influence—hello, illusion of control—and you’ve got a recipe for “I’ll just do it myself” syndrome.

If it sounds like I’m talking directly to YOU…I AM!

But here’s where it gets really interesting: this isn’t just you being a control freak. It’s your incredibly capable brain trying to protect all that hard work you’ve put in.

The thing is, it’s also holding you back from the very growth you’ve been hustling for. It really is time to let go of the reins.

Facing the Fear (Because You’re Braver Than You Think)

Let’s get real for a second. The fears bubbling up when you think about delegating? They’re valid. You worry about losing control, about work not meeting your sky-high standards, maybe even about making yourself… dispensable. YIKES!

Deep breath.

These fears are normal, but they’re not your whole story.

True leadership—the kind that leaves a legacy—is about growth. Yours and your team’s.

And growth? It’s on the other side of that fear.

Delegation: The Ultimate Team Superpower

Here’s what magic happens when you start delegating:

  • Your team members develop new skills (and they’re hungry for that chance!)
  • Your overall team capacity skyrockets
  • Morale and job satisfaction go through the roof
  • You finally have the headspace to tackle the big-picture stuff

Think about it: every time you hand off a task, you’re saying, “I trust you.” And trust? It’s the currency of incredible teams.

Hold please…back up and read that again.

Your Top 5 Delegation How-Tos

  1. Start with the ‘why’: Share the purpose behind each task. When your team understands the impact of their work, they’re invested from the get-go.
  2. Play task matchmaker: Align assignments with your team’s superpowers. When people work in their zone of genius, magic happens.
  3. Be the ultimate resource provider: Set your squad up for success with the tools, info, and support they need. It’s like giving them a head start in a race.
  4. Crystal-clear success: Define what a win looks like. Clear expectations are like a GPS for your team—they’ll know exactly where they’re heading.
  5. Trust, but keep your telescope handy: Give your team space to soar, but schedule check-ins. It shows you care without hovering.

Imposter Syndrome? Not on My Watch!

Now, let’s talk about you for a minute. That nagging voice questioning whether you’re really cut out for this leadership gig?

It’s called imposter syndrome, and guess what? Even the bigwigs feel it sometimes.

But my friend, you’ve built your success from nothing. Your expertise isn’t an accident—it’s the result of countless late nights, tough decisions, and hard-won victories.

You are the real deal, and it’s time your leadership style reflected that truth.

From Doing to Leading: Your New Superpower

Your job isn’t about being in the weeds; it’s about being the visionary.

You’re the coach, the obstacle-remover, the celebrator-in-chief.

Your job is to clear the path so your team can sprint.

Imagine for a moment: What could you achieve if you weren’t bogged down in the day-to-day?

What dreams have you back-burnered because you “don’t have time”?

Delegation isn’t about offloading work; it’s about making space for your next big move.

Your Challenge (Should You Choose to Accept It)

Imagine the Mission Impossible theme playing here.

So, here’s what I want you to do. This week, pick one task—just one—and delegate it.

Feel the discomfort, acknowledge it, and do it anyway.

Document what happens. I bet you’ll be surprised.

That team of yours? They’re capable of more than you can imagine. And you, my friend, are ready to lead them there.

Remember, every time you delegate, you’re not just freeing up your time; you’re voting for your dreams and investing in your team’s potential. That’s the kind of leadership that leaves a mark.

You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way. Now, go show ’em what boss moves really look like!

xoxo

Tonya

Tonya Kay

Mindset Mentor & Leadership Coach

Want to live more life and do more of what makes you happy?

I can help guide you! Let go of the little stuff so you can live BIG!

(❁´◡`❁) Paradise , Boise, ID 83705
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